I remember exactly half a lifetime ago, on New Year’s Eve when I was 16 (I am now 32), I lost my virginity. Ever since then, NYE is like “The Day I Lost my V-Card”, and since I had sex that night to “get it over with” (Oh, how many more nights have I done this since…), I always look at New Years with a sense of shame and dread. I don’t know, maybe in some ways I enjoy the resolutions, but I had such a yucky de-virgining experience that it kind of sticks out like a sore erection. Sorry, my blog posts are swirling together.

You see, I hope to blog more about shit that’s happened to me (like losing my virginity to an adult when I was a minor, which is technically my first rape, right? And that’s some interesting memoir-obilia.) But that’s serious stuff…

Yet I also hope to blog more in a completely funny way, because I do tend to be very dark on paper/screen, but I have a lot more humor to share.

So this NYE post might have to suffer a little Bipolarism. Which is only fair in my opinion…because that’s what New Year’s resolutions are all about. Its a mix of regret and shame of our past failures disguised as uplifting plans for how amazeballs we will be on Day 1 of the Future. Its like the TOFU CUPCAKES I made today because I am getting fat yet sort-of want to deny that and act like I just want to be super clever. Cheers to “healthism”!

I’m not getting fat, it’s just my winter coat. My indoor winter coat. I’ll be fine…  Let’s be honest, this post is a selfish and ashamed cry to the universe to Please Let Me Be Skinnier in 2016! Internet Gods, do you hear me?

  • Cruising along…I guess my resolutions are more like a Dear Santa/Dear God letter. I “want”….let’s see….to get more exercise.
  • work more regularly on my Continuing ed credits to maintain that professional degree that I won’t tell you about.
  • Go back to the gym before my membership expires. Its been many months since I’ve been and now I have the “Shame of Abandonment Syndrome” and feel like I can’t go back to the “hot mom herd”. Cleverly,  I shall weave myself back in among the chubby newcomers in January and perhaps that’ll make it easier.
  • I want to run again. When I was anorexic (QUESTIONIING this label a lot these days. It is a “noble” title but I sort of think I was, as i was 5’7 and weighed 112 lb, which was 1/4 comprised of jello and yellow mustard), when I was anorexic, I could run and like fly up in the air like the runner version of ET AND ELIOT ON THE BICYCLE. That scene. Whee! Now that I weigh (BIG REVEAL)…140lbs (Coat included), I don’t run and I know it’s because of the extra weight. So, basically, if I lose weight I will be able to run again.
  • Blogging. It’s a newer habit that I will be working on more in 2016. It’s so  good for the mind, and I really enjoy reading other people’s blogs, too.
  • Clothes and organization and clutter and stuff. I have to work on that. Ideally, I get a better sense of my own style this year. I currently really enjoy wearing a specific sweatshirt and sweatpants or Lululemon concoction (Just in case I go to the gym, lol, not). On days that I work in that professional profession, I dress up pretty nice. I was in pearls yesterday I tells ya, PEARLS. So I have a few looks that are very opposed. In the summer, I have a third look:  Dirty-Gardener. It’s pretty sexy but doesn’t translate well at the supermarket or library (which are BASICALLY the only places I go. #Recluse
  • If I got my clothes act together, that would entail me getting rid of a lot and organizing a lot. GOALS!
  • Give my dog her flea medication every month. Goals!
  • Go to AA or work on my sobriety in a new way. Funny to mention this so late in the post, but I really want to find my sober tribe. I’ve been sober for 1.5 yrs and its boring and lonely and isolating and antisocial. Im beginning to think that’ why people go to AA. Is it like a party? 🙂 The only times I’ve been certainly were a drag. I remember going there once for a college assignment to “observe” and even though it was a good 6 years before I got sore,  knew even then that I was not “observing”, but that I could have been a member, if I admitted to myself that I was a lush. That was such a sad day for me, lonely…
  • Spend 6 months Not actively trying to become a perfect, married person with a house and a baby (note: I do have an almost 12-year old but I’m getting scared of the empty nest coming my way, a RENTAL nest at that!!!)   This is a goal my new shrink gave me, because basically i need to bask in my awesomeness for being sober for a while)
  • Spend that 6 months finding a way to not be anxious! Not needing the future to happen now. Bask, bask, bask!!!
  • Do more things in my professional profession to make me  better professional. I think I know what they could be, volunteering or writing…just another step towards a bigger career move that I am not looking for in my 6-months of non-pushiness of the future.

These are just the goals that I’ve come across during this free write. I’m sure there are more, that will apply to my relationships and activities…

TTFN and Happy New Year to anyone who survived this blog post!






  1. cambriasmommy7 · December 31, 2015

    Keep blogging. Whether it’s dark, humorous, or dark and humorous. Its a good release. Even if no one reads it. 😉

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  2. cambriasmommy7 · December 31, 2015

    And everything will come together eventually. Everything happens for a reason.

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    • parentified · December 31, 2015

      Sometimes I like that saying, sometimes I don’t!


      • cambriasmommy7 · January 2, 2016

        I can agree with that. Lol it’s great when whatever happened is good but when it’s something bad you’re just like ‘what the fuck?! What was the reasoning for this crap!’

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      • parentified · January 2, 2016

        yes! Can I give you my example from this week? I had my ex over for a grown up overnight for the first time in 9 months, and that night, my big x texted me out of the very same blue….and he’s the one that drives me crazy…Wh would that all have to happen in the same 2 hours?!

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      • cambriasmommy7 · January 2, 2016

        Its the universe trying to drive you bat shit crazy. Like seriously. One of my exes hit me up this weekend and was like ‘oh hey I’m getting a divorce’ and I’m like ‘oh hey haven’t we established that despite the sexual tension between is there is nothing else??’

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